Drinking and emotional regulation

I have come to the conclusion that the traditional British attitude of the stiff upper lip is responsible for us drinking far more than we should on a regular basis. It’s also not just how much but how early we start, that we commonly drink everything in sight and that we don’t stop. We don’t even drink soft drinks to water it down. Even in this pandemic alcohol sale and therefore consumption levels are at record levels. We can’t go to the pub to drink our alcohol so we drink it in our homes where we don’t have to worry about work, transportation and it’s cheaper.

It’s no wonder that millennials have stopped drinking. They have learnt from our European cousins that there is more to life than booze. They have also learnt to be a lot freer with their emotions. Emotional repression is why the majority of people drink as it’s too painful to endure but the consequences of this are insidious. You do more long term damage to yourself by not addressing your own problems and feelings than you do by ignoring them.

The Greeks are very spiritual and emotional people. They can be commonly found having a disagreement ie shouting match but it never results in blows. The next day they are friends again having resolved their issues. They do love a good catchup and right now they are enjoying their beaches having come partially out of lockdown.

Where as us in the UK are still in for at least another month. We can go out of our houses now but still have to social distance and can only meet friends one on one in the park. We can’t invite them round for afternoon tea or a sleepover. We can take as much exercise as we want as long as we social distance so playing golf for instance. No spectating and no group sports otherwise. We can go to work if we can’t do it from home ie construction or manufacturing. So working for others is allowed as you have to think of big business but otherwise stay home and alert watching to see if Covid is around the corner of your now spotless, well organized home. Which by now is full of home schooled children, artwork and home baked goods. Maybe you even have a bun in the oven yourself since you’ve had so much time on your hands?


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7 thoughts on “Drinking and emotional regulation”

  1. That note on stiff upper lip and emotional repression, that’s why we have a problem-drinking epidemic (especially in Anglo countries). People by and large have no-one to talk to (in non-lockdown conditions) & have been conditioned to believe that talking about emotions is ‘weak’. This is most pronounced among men, but also true of women too.

    RE disagreements and the Greeks; I’ve noticed in England, people tend to focus on differences rather than commonalities, especially true on Saturday nights (defeats the whole purpose of pubs, getting people together). It’s as if people are afraid of each other and afraid people are out to get them. Southern Spain is a bit more like you describe Greece.

    RE booze; Booze was originally a social lubricant NOT the focus of a social occasion. The pub was & should be a gathering place, not a watering hole. I think a large part of the problem is people don’t get good quality sober social practice such as meeting new people, group conversations, mingling, dancing & only get to do those things under influence.

    I think the lockdown is a good thing, it gets people to re-evaluate the purpose of gatherings. The English have it so wrong & are the most anti-social people on the planet.

    You’re right, emotional repression, this.. English emotional repression culture, I hate it, the clever tactics and sarcasm that’s used to enforce it, the toxic masculinity culture. Younger people are rejecting that (thank god).

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    1. Thankyou very much for reading this and replying in such exquisite detail.
      I had to go to both the Cayman Islands and Greece to learn about something other than school and work.


      1. Going out a lot prior to lockdown, going to Spain to visit a mate of mine & 3 work camps and going to local couchsurfing meets, that’s my back story. To the main topic; Going out to the pubs in a working class town, the whole stiff-upper lip thing you talk about, certainly is true and certainly describes the whole getting drunk thing & ‘needing’ to be drunk.

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        1. I think we all were going out a lot. I did detest having to go out drinking in order to meet people and you would meet the same people having surface level conversations with them because you were not capable of anything else being under the influence. The Greek students are always very confused when they come over and mainly keep to themselves organising there own evenings out and bbqs.

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          1. Oh most definitely but there the opening salvo before you delve into more complex matters. However, you find most opponents are ill equipped for such linguistic duels!


  2. I grew up in a neighborhood with lots of Greeks … I learned to love their tactile nature for touching, slapping and squeezing you while they speak… I found it both connected and disarmed the listener at the same time. It’s that character that COVID has robbed us of the most. A glass or two of ouzo and a ya mas would help get things stated also….

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